Here is one mamas take on motherhood and it is so inspiring!
The Good In Motherhood
Social Media and Motherhood
I see a LOT of posts that talk about the “struggle as a parent” and funny horror stories of the things kids do to drive their parents nuts, followed by comments of people saying “And that’s why I’ll never have kids”. While these posts definitely have their place and have helped me when parenting has felt like a real struggle, I want to write a positive post about being a parent because I feel like there needs to be more of them and also because I really LOVE being a mama. Specifically a mom to this kid!
Everyone scared me about Austin turning two. Another mom told me “it was like a light switch, the day after her second birthday the Terrible Twos hit”. All year I’ve thought about that convo waiting for my sweet child to be possessed by the twos and become a horrible demon child. But to my pleasant surprise, I’ve loved this year the most. Austin’s almost 3 now and I’ve fallen in love with the new little person he has become.
Real Life Motherhood
Seriously! Every day he makes me laugh. Like really laugh, the good big belly ones. Austin is the funniest person I know, admittedly just to his father and I. He gets humor now and will turn on the charm once he knows he’ll get a chuckle. I never know what words are going to pop out of his mouth, but I’m enjoying finding out. We now have a running joke in our family, literally a running joke, where Austin runs as fast as he can through the living room, down the hall into the kitchen and pops his head out from the kitchen wall and shouts “quesadilla!” James and I have no idea why he chose to say quesadilla but it had just the right comedic effect to have us rolling as he ran laps around us sitting on the couch and repeated said scenario over and over. You just can’t prepare for what your kids will do that will make you laugh. But I’m thankful there’s lots of these moments.
Also, the love that a kid can give you is unlike any other love! Nothing beats the feeling of that special connection we have. Like when I pick him up from preschool and he runs over to me shouting “Mommy!” with his arms reaching for me! Or when he grabs my cheeks and looks into my face and whispers “Mommy, I love you”. I just about died from love when I was lying next to Austin and he started rubbing my back with his sweet little toddler hand.
And did I mention how considerate he is? Like this kid legit asked the mechanic and the barista (separate occasions) if they were ok, because he heard them cough a little. He tells me “God bless you” when I sneeze. And he always says excuse me after he burps and then lets me know that he burped 🤣 Austin is also so receptive to my emotions that once when I was in a deep moment of contemplation over something I was angry about, he asked if I was okay. I had tried to hide my feelings and was paying him attention still but he just knew. This kid has the power to calm an emotional storm in a second, with his sweet words or touch.
And what about his childlike nature and holidays? Kids make holidays fun all over again or fun maybe for some for the first time. I know I get way more kick out of introducing Austin to holiday traditions and watching his reaction than I even did enjoying those traditions myself as a kid.
Kids let adults have moments to just be a carefree kid again too and play on the playground they’ve long outgrown and do treasure hunts for simple things like leaves and rocks. Not to mention, get back in touch with our artistic sides. Kids crafts for the win! I could mention a million other special memories but I’d rather not bore you, if I haven’t already.
Just Remember!
Just wanted to let those who are maybe scared of parenthood, because of stories they hear, know that there really is an unbeatable love that exists, that does make the hard moments worth it, and to hopefully remind other parents out there of the things they love about their own kids when it’s been a rough day.
Cheryl Alonzo
Cheryl is a mama to Austin and she is a member of FIT4MOM West San Fernando Valley. I came across this as a post on her Facebook page and told her she needed to share this message with all of us mamas. She is such a light to have in our classes and she is just now beginning to share her love of motherhood with new mamas. She is a Birth Doula and you can find her on FB:@doulacherbear and her website mamacherbear.com